When you're catastrophizing or spiraling about divorce, Martin Seligman's framework can help you think clearly instead of panicking. Spiraling is good for stairs, not so much for people. Divorce brings up catastrophic thinking. What if I can't afford to live on my own? What if my kids never forgive me? What if I'm making the biggest mistake of my life? What if I end up alone forever? Therapists call this pattern "catastrophizing," assuming the absolute worst in any situation,

Know these two numbers before you sit down to negotiate and you'll never have to worry you missed something. Understanding your numbers pre and post divorce are critical for being smart during negotiations. When people come to me before divorce negotiations, I ask them one question first: Do you know what your marriage actually costs? Most don’t. And that’s the single most expensive mistake you can make before sitting across from your spouse at a negotiating table. Here’s wha

Quiet Quitting Your Marriage Isn't a Solution, It's a Signal I originally published this post in December 2025, and it's become the most-read post on my entire site. Why? Because thousands of you are living this exact experience right now—you've already left the marriage in your head, but you haven't told anyone yet. If that's you, know you're not alone. I hope the post gives you insights into where you are, and inspires you to follow the actions listed below to help you nav

What a Forensic Accountant Revealed About Finding Hidden Money, Red Flags to Watch For, and When It's Worth Hiring One Finding hidden assets can be a full-time job. You have a suspicion. Something doesn't add up. Your spouse controls all the finances, and you're starting to wonder if there's money you don't know about. Maybe it's the lifestyle that doesn't match the reported income. Maybe it's the sudden "business losses" while you're still living in a beautiful home and taki