When you're considering divorce but have zero access to financial information because your spouse manages everything, the whole idea of leaving can feel impossible. How are you supposed to negotiate a settlement when you don't even know what accounts exist? How do you plan for your future when you literally have no idea what you have I hear this exact fear almost every day from people who reach out to me. You're definitely not alone in feeling completely in the dark about you

One of the first questions people ask me when they're thinking about divorce is: "How do I find a good lawyer?" Not just any lawyer. A good one. Someone who's experienced, reasonable, won't drain your bank account unnecessarily, and actually gets what you're going through. It's one of the most important decisions you'll make during this process—and one of the most overwhelming. Because how are you supposed to evaluate something you've never done before? How do you know if som

I Feel Sneaky Preparing for Divorce Without Telling My Spouse—Is This Normal? Let's talk about the feeling nobody warns you about when you're preparing for divorce before sharing the news with your spouse: the guilt. You 're quietly gathering statements and documents that pertain to your married life. You're researching family law attorneys, brushed up on the divorce laws in your state and Googled "How to prepare for divorce". And the whole time, there's this voice in your he

How One Simple Exercise Helped Me Navigate Divorce — and How It Can Help You Too If you're going through a divorce right now, your to-do list probably looks something like this: find an attorney, gather financial documents, figure out the custody situation, try not to fall apart. Writing a letter to yourself is probably not on that list. It should be. I spend a lot of time talking about spreadsheets, financial disclosures, and getting organized before you ever set foot in an

The decision-making framework I created during my own divorce — and now use with every single client — to help you stop making choices from fear and start making them from strategy. Divorce is chess, not checkers. Every move you make has consequences that ripple out for years — so make them count. When I was going through my own divorce, I was completely overwhelmed by the sheer number of decisions I had to make. Big ones, small ones, financial ones, emotional ones—they just