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The Oprah Podcast Featured My Content on "Quiet Quitting Your Marriage" — What the Term Means and What to Do Next
Her producers reached out to me in March, and I've been keeping this secret ever since.
Sex After Divorce: Why Reclaiming Your Desire Is Part of the Healing
Nobody tells you this part. Here's the honest conversation about intimacy, desire, and what comes next. Let's talk about something that can get ignored when talking about sex after divorce, namely the dry spell (to borrow from Kasey Musgraves) that must couples have endured in the last years of their marriage. Most couples who divorce have been living in a physical intimacy drought for months — sometimes years. The touch disappeared long before the paperwork did. The desire g
How to Negotiate Your Divorce: The Getting to Yes Framework (2026)
Divorce is one big negotiation. Here's the framework to walk in prepared. Getting an outcome both parties feel good about is the name of the game. I originally published this post in spring 2025 and it remains one of the most practical frameworks I share with clients preparing for divorce negotiations. I've updated it with current resources. If you're heading into negotiations, start here. "Divorce negotiations are fun!" said no one ever. Even in the best of circumstances, di
Mel Robbins Just Dedicated an Episode to Divorce. Here's What Guest James Sexton Said — And How It Mirrors to What I've Been Teaching for Years.
When a high-profile divorce attorney and a top podcaster talk about divorce preparation, I listen. Here's my take. Starting to educate yourself about divorce before taking definitive steps sets you up for success. Mel Robbins just dropped what she's calling the ultimate guide to divorce — a feature-length episode with James Sexton, one of the most prominent divorce attorneys in the country. It's getting a lot of attention, and for good reason. It covers a lot of ground. It's
Will Divorce Damage My Kids? Here's What the Research Actually Says — And What You Can Do About It
A calm two-home childhood beats a tense one-home childhood, every single time. There's a question I get from almost every parent I work with: Will divorce damage my kids? Here's what I tell them: kids aren't harmed by divorce. They are harmed by how adults behave during and after divorce. They are harmed by being used as messengers. By hearing one parent trash the other. By living in a house where the tension never lets up. A calm two-home childhood beats a tense one-home chi
Radio New Zealand Interviewed Me About Quiet Quitting Your Marriage. Here's What I Said.
When your content about "Quiet Quitting Marriage" travels from the United States to New Zealand, something is resonating. Click the the image above to listen to the interview I did with Radio New Zealand. A few weeks ago a clip of my content was featured on The Oprah Podcast episode about quiet quitting your marriage. What happened next caught me completely by surprise - Radio New Zealand reached out. Their producers had seenthe Oprah Podcast feature, read my post Quiet Quitt
Why Expecting Your Spouse to Change During Divorce Is Keeping You Stuck, And What to Do Instead
The current will always be the current. Here's how to stop fighting it. I want to share something from my coaching work that I think a lot of you will identify with. Recently a client reached out, frustrated and furious. Her husband had made plans that directly affected her without telling her. When she called him out on it, he said the information wasn't important enough to share. When she pushed back, he shut the conversation down entirely. She wrote to me: "I'm so angry I
Living Together During Divorce: How to Cohabitate Peacefully and Protect Your Sanity
Peacefully living with a soon-to-be-ex during a separation or divorce IS possible. Setting clear ground rules is what makes it possible. Cohabitating with a spouse during separation or divorce is not an ideal situation for many, but sometimes it's an unavoidable reality. Whether it's due to financial constraints, the welfare of children, or simply the need for a gradual transition, sharing a living space as you're severing marital ties is a challenge that many couples face.
Gray Divorce as Midlife Awakening: Your Transformation Guide
Why Your Marriage Ending Might Be Your Best Life Beginning Your next chapter gets to be written by YOU. When you're facing divorce after 45, it feels like everything is falling apart. The life you built, the future you planned, the person you thought you were—suddenly none of it makes sense anymore. I hear this from clients all the time: "I should be grateful for what I have, so why do I feel so empty?" Here's what I want you to consider: what if this is your moment to finall
Divorce Preparation Guide for Stay-at-Home Moms: What to Do First
You've spent years investing in your family. Here's how to invest in your future. If you're a stay-at-home mom facing divorce—whether it's something you've been quietly considering or something your spouse just dropped on you—the fear can be overwhelming. Financial independence. Re-entering the workforce. Childcare on your own. Legal rights you're not sure you have. It's a lot. Here's what I want you to know before anything else: your situation is more common than you think,
When Women Out-Earn Their Husbands: The Hidden Burden Behind Female Breadwinner Divorce
Female breadwinners are 42% of divorces. Here's what's really driving it and what to do if you're one of them. Female breadwinners represent just 16% of all married households, but account for 42% of divorces. Let that sink in for a second. Women who earn more than their husbands are nearly three times more likely to get divorced than couples where the man earns more. And if she's the sole breadwinner? The divorce rate is more than double. I see this pattern all the time with
The Financial Mistake Smart People Make During Divorce (And How to Avoid It)
Money mistakes are common in divorce, and they have long-term effects on your financial health. Your emotions are valid. They just shouldn't be making your financial decisions. Divorce is emotional. There's no getting around it. But when it comes to the financial decisions you're making right now, emotions like fear, guilt, and grief can lead you straight into long-term regret. I've seen smart, capable people give up assets, accept bad deals, or delay critical decisions—all b
What Happens When a Trad Wife Gets Divorced: How to Protect Yourself Financially and Move Forward
The trad wife trend is mainstream. The financial risk of divorce is not talked about enough. Here's what you need to know. Tradwife divorce has big stakes. Preparation helps. Let's talk about trad wives. The tradwife trend has exploded over the past few years. Google searches have climbed steadily since 2023, the term made it into the Cambridge Dictionary's list of new words for 2025, and some tradwife creators now have followings in the millions. It's not a fringe lifestyle
The Divorce Planner Podcast Summer Series: Four Episodes - Four Divorce Coaching Frameworks That Actually Work
Four bonus episodes. No guests. Just the frameworks and tools I use with coaching clients every single day. I'm doing something different this summer. Starting July 23rd, I'm dropping four bonus episodes of The Divorce Planner Podcast, and these are very different from my regular Season 1 episodes. No guests. No interviews. Just me, sharing the exact frameworks and tools I use with my coaching clients every single day. Each episode is 10 to 15 minutes. Short, focused, and bui
10 Questions to Ask Yourself Before Filing for Divorce
Before you make any decisions, start here. Thoughtful consideration is the key to making a decision that you'll feel good about. I originally published this post in 2023 and it remains one of the most-read pieces on this site, because these are the questions that actually matter before you make any decisions about divorce. I've updated it with new resources and tools. If you're at the beginning of this process, you're in the right place. By the time the idea of divorce has en
How to Prepare for Divorce Mediation: A Step-by-Step Guide (2026)
Walk in prepared, not panicked. Here's exactly what you need to do before mediation starts. With divorce mediation costing $$$ per hour, preparing before starting the clock matters. You've decided on mediation. Smart move. But here's what most people don't realize: walking in unprepared costs you thousands in billable hours and puts you in a position to make decisions you'll regret. Mediators charge by the hour. Every moment you spend looking for a document, clarifying your f
The Complete 90-Day Divorce Preparation Blueprint: What to Do Before Filing
The decisions you make in the next 90 days will affect everything that comes after. Here's the exact roadmap. Most people file for divorce without doing any of the preparation that would have saved them thousands of dollars and months of unnecessary stress. Not because they didn't have time. Because nobody told them what to do first. The 90 days before you file are the most important window in the entire divorce process. This is work to do before you book attorney consultatio
Should You Use an Online Divorce Service? Complete 2026 Guide to Costs, Pros & Cons
Compare pricing, features, and which platform actually works for your situation. Online shopping for divorce? Read this first. You can get just about anything online these days: a first date, wedding registry, and a divorce. Is an online divorce service right for you? Yep, you read that right. Getting divorced online is now as common as ordering your morning coffee through an app. But before you start thinking divorce is as simple as adding items to your Amazon cart, let's ta
How to Reflect and Rebuild After Divorce: Your Step-by-Step Framework for Creating Your Best Post-Divorce Life
What happens when you skip the reflection, and how to do it right. Self reflection during and after divorce isn't easy, but is essential to rebuild your best life. We've all seen it: someone gets divorced, and within weeks they're in a new relationship. Sometimes it's genuine connection. Sometimes it's escape. What's the difference between the two? Intention. When you skip the reflection phase of divorce, you're more likely to make choices from a place of loneliness, relief,
3 Questions to Stop Divorce Spiraling & Make Better Decisions (From a Leading Happiness Researcher)
When you're catastrophizing or spiraling about divorce, Martin Seligman's framework can help you think clearly instead of panicking. Spiraling is good for stairs, not so much for people. Divorce brings up catastrophic thinking. What if I can't afford to live on my own? What if my kids never forgive me? What if I'm making the biggest mistake of my life? What if I end up alone forever? Therapists call this pattern "catastrophizing," assuming the absolute worst in any situation,
The Two Numbers You Need Before Divorce Negotiations: Your Marital Standard of Living and Post-Divorce Budget
Know these two numbers before you sit down to negotiate and you'll never have to worry you missed something. Understanding your numbers pre and post divorce are critical for being smart during negotiations. When people come to me before divorce negotiations, I ask them one question first: Do you know what your marriage actually costs? Most don’t. And that’s the single most expensive mistake you can make before sitting across from your spouse at a negotiating table. Here’s wha
Quiet Quitting Your Marriage Isn't a Solution: Signs And What To Do (2026)
Quiet Quitting Your Marriage Isn't a Solution, It's a Signal I originally published this post in December 2025, and it's become the most-read post on my entire site. Why? Because thousands of you are living this exact experience right now—you've already left the marriage in your head, but you haven't told anyone yet. If that's you, know you're not alone. I hope the post gives you insights into where you are, and inspires you to follow the actions listed below to help you nav
Hidden Assets in Divorce: How Forensic Accountants Find Money Your Spouse Doesn't Want You to Know About
What a Forensic Accountant Revealed About Finding Hidden Money, Red Flags to Watch For, and When It's Worth Hiring One Finding hidden assets can be a full-time job. You have a suspicion. Something doesn't add up. Your spouse controls all the finances, and you're starting to wonder if there's money you don't know about. Maybe it's the lifestyle that doesn't match the reported income. Maybe it's the sudden "business losses" while you're still living in a beautiful home and taki
The Four Pillars of Divorce Preparation: Your Complete Guide to Getting Ready
Emotional, Financial, Administrative & Practical: The Complete System to Prepare Strategically Each of the four pillars supports the other. When people ask me "Where do I even start with divorce?" I tell them the same thing every time: You start by understanding that divorce preparation isn't just one thing. It's four things. Most people think preparing for divorce means hiring a lawyer and gathering financial documents. And yes, those things matter. But if that's all you foc
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