What to do when you're still legally married but emotionally — you checked out a long time ago. You're still wearing the ring. But you already left. "You've probably seen the phrase ' quiet quitting your marriage ' floating around since The Cut published their piece on it last November. And while that article named something real — women emotionally withdrawing from marriages that stopped working — I want to talk about what's actually happening underneath that phrase. Becaus

Watch the full conversation above, then read on for the essential strategies that will help you create a co-parenting agreement that protects your children's future. Creating a parenting plan is one of the most emotionally difficult parts of divorce. No parent starts a family thinking, "I'm only going to have my kids for a certain percentage of the time." But here's the thing—a well-crafted parenting plan can save you thousands in legal fees, protect your relationship with yo

Take Control of Your Divorce Journey: Navigating the Uncertainty January—often referred to as "Divorce Month"—has just passed. I know many of you might be thinking: "Everyone else who was considering divorce in January has made a decision by now. Why can't I just decide?" Let me be clear: If you're not ready to decide, you're not behind. You're not late. You're exactly where you need to be. Subscribe to The Divorce Planner's newsletter and get divorce prep tips and tools del

Here's a statistic that should stop you in your tracks: What happens when she earns more but still does more at home? The divorce rate triples. Female breadwinners represent just 16% of all married households—but account for 42% of divorces. Let that sink in for a second. Women who earn more than their husbands are nearly three times more likely to get divorced than couples where the man earns more. And if she's the sole breadwinner? The divorce rate is more than double. I se

If you're reading this, you've probably been Googling divorce questions at 2 a.m., trying to figure out what you're supposed to do next. You're not alone. Millions of people search for divorce information every single month. And the questions they're asking? They're probably the same ones you have. So let's cut through the legal-speak and get to the nitty gritty about what you really need to know from the top 10 divorce searches. Subscribe to The Divorce Planner's newsletter

Let's be honest: choosing a divorce attorney is one of the most important decisions you'll make during this process. And it's also one of the most intimidating. You're supposed to interview them like you're hiring for a job, but you're doing it while you're stressed, overwhelmed, and probably have no idea what you're even looking for. I get it. I've been there. So let me walk you through exactly how to choose an attorney who's the right fit—not just for your case, but for you

What exactly is"divorce curious"? That's the stage when you first realize your marriage could end in divorce. After years of saying "I would never divorce" or "if you leave me I'm coming with you" suddenly it dawns on you that divorce could be an option. Maybe it's been building for years. Maybe something recently shifted. Either way, you're in that uncomfortable in-between place where you know things aren't working, but you don't know what to do about it. Here's what I want

AI has definitely changed the world, whether for the better is yet to be seen. AI versus human, what's better? There are so many pros and cons to using it including environmental concerns, accuracy, extreme bias and the erosion of work for actual humans. Full transparency, AI is definitely my biggest competition. And I know this for a fact because my website has AI platform tracking capability, and it constantly shows me that ChatGPT and other platforms are pulling my informa

Made it through another holiday season thinking “I can’t do this one more year”? You’re not alone. Divorce attorneys see a 33% increase in January. January has a hidden nickname in the legal world: Divorce Month . Why January Is Called “Divorce Month” Family law attorneys brace for a surge of calls starting the first week of January. Divorce-related Google searches skyrocket. And by March, divorce filings hit their annual peak. But is January really when most people divorce

How to Co-Parent with a High-Conflict Ex: Strategies That Actually Work If you're co-parenting with someone who's high-conflict or toxic, you know how exhausting it is. You're juggling custody schedules, managing big emotions, and trying not to fall into old patterns that kept you stuck for so long. I sat down with certified divorce coach Leah Marie Mazur to talk about what actually works when you're dealing with a narcissistic, manipulative, or just flat-out difficult co-par

You've probably seen the article by now. "The Women Quietly Quitting Their Husbands" by Monica Corcoran Harel in The Cut has been shared thousands of times, sparking conversations in group chats, therapy sessions, and late-night scrolls when you can't sleep because something about it hit too close to home. I know Monica and respect her work. And I am thrilled that the term has gone viral because it provides a great springboard to talk about what quiet quitting really means.

Should Your Tween or Teen Dictate Your Post-Divorce Parenting Schedule? Insights from Psychologist Dr. Lisa Damour Figuring out custody is one of the most emotionally brutal parts of divorce. I know this from experience. When I was going through my own divorce, we got through the finances, the property, all of it. But when we sat down to talk about the parenting schedule? I had to leave the room because I became emotionally overwhelmed. No one has kids thinking they're going

What's Actually Happening in Your Brain During Divorce—and How to Fix It You're not imagining it. The brain fog, the inability to focus, the way you keep replaying painful conversations on an endless loop—there's actual neuroscience behind what you're experiencing during divorce. I sat down with neuroscientist Dr. Nicole A. Tetreault to understand exactly what's happening in our brains during one of life's most stressful transitions. What she shared wasn't just fascinating—i

If you’re heading into the holiday season while navigating divorce or separation, this time of year can feel anything but merry. That mix of gratitude and complete overwhelm? Totally normal. Dread and anxiety? Yup, normal. The holidays during or after divorce feel different. But here’s what I want you to know: different doesn’t have to mean bad. Subscribe to The Divorce Planner's weekly newsletter and get divorce prep tips and tools delivered right to your inbox! Whether it’s

What the Podcast Didn't Cover: Strategic Financial Preparation for Divorce After 50 Watch Oprah's podcast about gray divorce. Last week, something significant happened in the divorce conversation. Oprah Winfrey released a podcast episode entirely dedicated to gray divorce—the term for divorce after age 50. The episode featured some of the leading voices in this space: Susan Guthrie, host of The Divorce & Beyond Podcast  and a family law attorney with over 30 years of experien

Let's talk about the elephant in the room. What does divorce actually cost? It's the question I get asked more than any other. And honestly, it's the one that makes people the most anxious. So I sat down with family law attorney Dennis Vetrano Jr.—who's been practicing for 25 years and handles 60 to 100 divorce consultations every single month—to get the real answer. And when I say real, I mean it. Dennis doesn't sugarcoat anything. Which is exactly why I love talking to him.

Watch the 25-minute video conversation above. Expert CDFA Advice on QDROs, Tax Strategies, and Protecting Your Financial Future When you're going through a divorce, the last thing you want to deal with is figuring out how to split up retirement accounts, who had what before marriage, what was earned during, and so on. But this is exactly the stuff you need to understand so you don't make expensive mistakes that'll haunt you for decades. I recently sat down with Certified Divo

Save Thousands in Legal Fees by Getting Your Financial Documents Organized Before Your First Attorney Meeting Organizing financial documents yourself saves thousands in divorce attorney fees. Here's something nobody tells you about divorce: the single biggest thing that will save you money is showing up to your attorney or mediator meeting with your financial documents already organized. Why? Because you're not paying someone $300-800 an hour to chase down bank statements and

Protect Your Kids and Your Peace With a Detailed Parenting Plan That Leaves No Loopholes Does your co-parent make every interaction about drama instead of putting your kids first? That's not normal co-parenting—that's toxic behavior, and it requires a completely different approach. When you're dealing with a manipulative co-parent who shows up late on purpose, badmouths you to the kids, and turns every pickup into a power struggle, you need more than a basic parenting plan. Y

From Two Incomes to One (or One to One): Creating a Realistic Financial Plan for Your Next Chapter Let's talk about the elephant in the room... going from a two-income household to a single-income household is financially brutal. Even if you're the primary breadwinner, divorce changes everything about your financial life. And if you've been a stay at home parent, the shift can feel terrifying and make you want to shut down. The bills don't change. Your kids still need the sam

High-Conflict Co-Parenting: How to Protect Your Kids With a Bulletproof Parenting Plan Does your co-parent make every interaction about drama instead of putting your kids first? That's not normal co-parenting—that's toxic behavior, and it requires a completely different approach. I sat down with parenting plan expert Samantha Boss, who specializes in high-conflict co-parenting situations. Samantha knows how to deal with manipulative co-parents who show up late on purpose, bad

One of the biggest decisions you'll make about divorce is what process to go through, but most people have no clue what the real differences are. I brought back family law attorney Renée Turner to break down collaborative divorce versus mediation in practical terms—not just the fancy descriptions you see online. We talked for 25 minutes about what each process actually looks like day-to-day, which one works when you've got complicated finances, and the red flags that mean you

"Where do I start when preparing for divorce? I feel completely overwhelmed and don't know what to do first." This question lands in my inbox almost daily, and honestly? It's completely understandable. Divorce feels like standing at the base of a mountain without a map. You know you need to get to the other side, but the path forward seems impossible to figure out. Here's the good news: you don't have to figure it all out at once. And you definitely don't need to do it alone.

"Some days I feel strong. Other days, I don't know who I am anymore." Who you get to be after divorce is up to YOU. This is one of the most common things I hear from clients—and it takes me right back to my own divorce. The hardest part wasn't just losing the relationship. It was losing me in the version of "we" that I had been living for years: the routines, the role of being a wife, the role of being a mother, being in "just trying to survive" mode, and having no idea who I