When your content about "Quiet Quitting Marriage" travels from the United States to New Zealand, something is resonating. Click the the image above to listen to the interview I did with Radio New Zealand. A few weeks ago a clip of my content was featured on The Oprah Podcast episode about quiet quitting your marriage. What happened next caught me completely by surprise - Radio New Zealand reached out. Their producers had seenthe Oprah Podcast feature, read my post Quiet Quitt

The current will always be the current. Here's how to stop fighting it. I want to share something from my coaching work that I think a lot of you will identify with. Recently a client reached out, frustrated and furious. Her husband had made plans that directly affected her without telling her. When she called him out on it, he said the information wasn't important enough to share. When she pushed back, he shut the conversation down entirely. She wrote to me: "I'm so angry I

Peacefully living with a soon-to-be-ex during a separation or divorce IS possible. Setting clear ground rules is what makes it possible. Cohabitating with a spouse during separation or divorce is not an ideal situation for many, but sometimes it's an unavoidable reality. Whether it's due to financial constraints, the welfare of children, or simply the need for a gradual transition, sharing a living space as you're severing marital ties is a challenge that many couples face.

Why Your Marriage Ending Might Be Your Best Life Beginning Your next chapter gets to be written by YOU. When you're facing divorce after 45, it feels like everything is falling apart. The life you built, the future you planned, the person you thought you were—suddenly none of it makes sense anymore. I hear this from clients all the time: "I should be grateful for what I have, so why do I feel so empty?" Here's what I want you to consider: what if this is your moment to finall

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What happens when you skip the reflection, and how to do it right. Self reflection during and after divorce isn't easy, but is essential to rebuild your best life. We've all seen it: someone gets divorced, and within weeks they're in a new relationship. Sometimes it's genuine connection. Sometimes it's escape. What's the difference between the two? Intention. When you skip the reflection phase of divorce, you're more likely to make choices from a place of loneliness, relief,

When you're catastrophizing or spiraling about divorce, Martin Seligman's framework can help you think clearly instead of panicking. Spiraling is good for stairs, not so much for people. Divorce brings up catastrophic thinking. What if I can't afford to live on my own? What if my kids never forgive me? What if I'm making the biggest mistake of my life? What if I end up alone forever? Therapists call this pattern "catastrophizing," assuming the absolute worst in any situation,

How One Simple Exercise Helped Me Navigate Divorce — and How It Can Help You Too If you're going through a divorce right now, your to-do list probably looks something like this: find an attorney, gather financial documents, figure out the custody situation, try not to fall apart. Writing a letter to yourself is probably not on that list. It should be. I spend a lot of time talking about spreadsheets, financial disclosures, and getting organized before you ever set foot in an

What's Actually Happening in Your Brain During Divorce—and How to Fix It You're not imagining it. The brain fog, the inability to focus, the way you keep replaying painful conversations on an endless loop—there's actual neuroscience behind what you're experiencing during divorce. I sat down with neuroscientist Dr. Nicole A. Tetreault to understand exactly what's happening in our brains during one of life's most stressful transitions. What she shared wasn't just fascinating—it

If you’re heading into the holiday season while navigating divorce or separation, this time of year can feel anything but merry. That mix of gratitude and complete overwhelm? Totally normal. Dread and anxiety? Yup, normal. The holidays during or after divorce feel different. But here’s what I want you to know: different doesn’t have to mean bad. Subscribe to The Divorce Planner weekly newsletter and get divorce prep tips and tools delivered right to your inbox! Whether it’s T