When a high-profile divorce attorney and a top podcaster talk about divorce preparation, I listen. Here's my take. Starting to educate yourself about divorce before taking definitive steps sets you up for success. Mel Robbins just dropped what she's calling the ultimate guide to divorce — a feature-length episode with James Sexton, one of the most prominent divorce attorneys in the country. It's getting a lot of attention, and for good reason. It covers a lot of ground. It's

When your content about "Quiet Quitting Marriage" travels from the United States to New Zealand, something is resonating. Click the the image above to listen to the interview I did with Radio New Zealand. A few weeks ago a clip of my content was featured on The Oprah Podcast episode about quiet quitting your marriage. What happened next caught me completely by surprise - Radio New Zealand reached out. Their producers had seenthe Oprah Podcast feature, read my post Quiet Quitt

Her producers reached out to me in March, and I've been keeping this secret ever since.

You've spent years investing in your family. Here's how to invest in your future. If you're a stay-at-home mom facing divorce—whether it's something you've been quietly considering or something your spouse just dropped on you—the fear can be overwhelming. Financial independence. Re-entering the workforce. Childcare on your own. Legal rights you're not sure you have. It's a lot. Here's what I want you to know before anything else: your situation is more common than you think,

Female breadwinners are 42% of divorces. Here's what's really driving it and what to do if you're one of them. Female breadwinners represent just 16% of all married households, but account for 42% of divorces. Let that sink in for a second. Women who earn more than their husbands are nearly three times more likely to get divorced than couples where the man earns more. And if she's the sole breadwinner? The divorce rate is more than double. I see this pattern all the time with

Before you make any decisions, start here. Thoughtful consideration is the key to making a decision that you'll feel good about. I originally published this post in 2023 and it remains one of the most-read pieces on this site, because these are the questions that actually matter before you make any decisions about divorce. I've updated it with new resources and tools. If you're at the beginning of this process, you're in the right place. By the time the idea of divorce has en

What happens when you skip the reflection, and how to do it right. Self reflection during and after divorce isn't easy, but is essential to rebuild your best life. We've all seen it: someone gets divorced, and within weeks they're in a new relationship. Sometimes it's genuine connection. Sometimes it's escape. What's the difference between the two? Intention. When you skip the reflection phase of divorce, you're more likely to make choices from a place of loneliness, relief,

When you're catastrophizing or spiraling about divorce, Martin Seligman's framework can help you think clearly instead of panicking. Spiraling is good for stairs, not so much for people. Divorce brings up catastrophic thinking. What if I can't afford to live on my own? What if my kids never forgive me? What if I'm making the biggest mistake of my life? What if I end up alone forever? Therapists call this pattern "catastrophizing," assuming the absolute worst in any situation,

Quiet Quitting Your Marriage Isn't a Solution, It's a Signal I originally published this post in December 2025, and it's become the most-read post on my entire site. Why? Because thousands of you are living this exact experience right now—you've already left the marriage in your head, but you haven't told anyone yet. If that's you, know you're not alone. I hope the post gives you insights into where you are, and inspires you to follow the actions listed below to help you nav

I Feel Sneaky Preparing for Divorce Without Telling My Spouse—Is This Normal? Let's talk about the feeling nobody warns you about when you're preparing for divorce before sharing the news with your spouse: the guilt. You're quietly gathering statements and documents that pertain to your married life. You're researching family law attorneys, brushed up on the divorce laws in your state and Googled "How to prepare for divorce". And the whole time, there's this voice in your hea