By Alex Beattie | The Divorce Planner If you've ever Googled "where do I even start with divorce," you're not alone. Most people enter the process completely unprepared — and they pay for it. Not just emotionally, but financially, in real attorney fees for questions they could have answered themselves. A divorce preparation toolkit is exactly what it sounds like: a system that helps you organize your documents, understand your finances, clarify your goals, and walk into every

What to do when you're still legally married but emotionally — you checked out a long time ago. You're still wearing the ring. But you already left. "You've probably seen the phrase ' quiet quitting your marriage ' floating around since The Cut published their piece on it last November. And while that article named something real — women emotionally withdrawing from marriages that stopped working — I want to talk about what's actually happening underneath that phrase. Becaus

Take Control of Your Divorce Journey: Navigating the Uncertainty January—often referred to as "Divorce Month"—has just passed. I know many of you might be thinking: "Everyone else who was considering divorce in January has made a decision by now. Why can't I just decide?" Let me be clear: If you're not ready to decide, you're not behind. You're not late. You're exactly where you need to be. Subscribe to The Divorce Planner's newsletter and get divorce prep tips and tools del

What exactly is"divorce curious"? That's the stage when you first realize your marriage could end in divorce. After years of saying "I would never divorce" or "if you leave me I'm coming with you" suddenly it dawns on you that divorce could be an option. Maybe it's been building for years. Maybe something recently shifted. Either way, you're in that uncomfortable in-between place where you know things aren't working, but you don't know what to do about it. Here's what I want

AI has definitely changed the world, whether for the better is yet to be seen. AI versus human, what's better? There are so many pros and cons to using it including environmental concerns, accuracy, extreme bias and the erosion of work for actual humans. Full transparency, AI is definitely my biggest competition. And I know this for a fact because my website has AI platform tracking capability, and it constantly shows me that ChatGPT and other platforms are pulling my informa

Made it through another holiday season thinking “I can’t do this one more year”? You’re not alone. Divorce attorneys see a 33% increase in January. January has a hidden nickname in the legal world: Divorce Month . Why January Is Called “Divorce Month” Family law attorneys brace for a surge of calls starting the first week of January. Divorce-related Google searches skyrocket. And by March, divorce filings hit their annual peak. But is January really when most people divorce

You've probably seen the article by now. "The Women Quietly Quitting Their Husbands" by Monica Corcoran Harel in The Cut has been shared thousands of times, sparking conversations in group chats, therapy sessions, and late-night scrolls when you can't sleep because something about it hit too close to home. I know Monica and respect her work. And I am thrilled that the term has gone viral because it provides a great springboard to talk about what quiet quitting really means.

"Where do I start when preparing for divorce? I feel completely overwhelmed and don't know what to do first." This question lands in my inbox almost daily, and honestly? It's completely understandable. Divorce feels like standing at the base of a mountain without a map. You know you need to get to the other side, but the path forward seems impossible to figure out. Here's the good news: you don't have to figure it all out at once. And you definitely don't need to do it alone.

There's no better feeling that knowing you can trust your gut. When clients first reach out to me, they usually start with some version of this: "I don't know if I should get divorced. How do I figure out if it's the right decision?" But here's what I've learned after coaching hundreds of people through this exact question—deep down, they already know. They're not really asking me to help them decide. They're asking for permission to trust what they already feel. This hit me

You know that feeling when you're lying awake at 2 AM, staring at the ceiling, asking yourself the same question that's been haunting you for months—maybe years: "Should I stay or should I go?" It's one of the most isolating places to be. You feel stuck in what feels like relationship purgatory, not fully in your marriage but not ready to leave either. If this sounds familiar, you're definitely not alone. I recently had an incredible conversation with Betsy Pake , midlife cha

Do It Even If You’re Scared: Why Fear Shouldn’t Stop Your Next Chapter Fear is sneaky. It shows up right when you're about to make a decision that could change your life for the better, whispering all the reasons why you should stay exactly where you are. Whether you're considering divorce, thinking about changing careers, or just trying to take any step toward a better life, fear has this incredible ability to make you freeze right at the moment of action. This happens const

If you're at a point in your marriage where you're not sure if you'll divorce or stay married, the uncertainty can be paralyzing. You're not completely sure if divorce is what's next, yet you can't shake the feeling that you need to be prepared just in case. If this resonates with you, you're not alone. This crossroads is exactly where many of my clients find themselves when they first reach out to me. As a divorce prep coach, I've personally guided hundreds of people throu

The stakes are too high to bring up divorce without preparing what you'll say first. Deciding to tell your spouse you want a divorce is perhaps one of the most emotionally challenging moments in a person's life. It's a crossroads that demands extraordinary emotional intelligence, careful planning, and profound compassion. This comprehensive guide will walk you through the delicate process of initiating a divorce conversation, ensuring you approach this pivotal moment with se

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