The current will always be the current. Here's how to stop fighting it. I want to share something from my coaching work that I think a lot of you will identify with. Recently a client reached out, frustrated and furious. Her husband had made plans that directly affected her without telling her. When she called him out on it, he said the information wasn't important enough to share. When she pushed back, he shut the conversation down entirely. She wrote to me: "I'm so angry I

Peacefully living with a soon-to-be-ex during a separation or divorce IS possible. Setting clear ground rules is what makes it possible. Cohabitating with a spouse during separation or divorce is not an ideal situation for many, but sometimes it's an unavoidable reality. Whether it's due to financial constraints, the welfare of children, or simply the need for a gradual transition, sharing a living space as you're severing marital ties is a challenge that many couples face.

You've spent years investing in your family. Here's how to invest in your future. If you're a stay-at-home mom facing divorce—whether it's something you've been quietly considering or something your spouse just dropped on you—the fear can be overwhelming. Financial independence. Re-entering the workforce. Childcare on your own. Legal rights you're not sure you have. It's a lot. Here's what I want you to know before anything else: your situation is more common than you think,

The trad wife trend is mainstream. The financial risk of divorce is not talked about enough. Here's what you need to know. Tradwife divorce has big stakes. Preparation helps. Let's talk about trad wives. The tradwife trend has exploded over the past few years. Google searches have climbed steadily since 2023, the term made it into the Cambridge Dictionary's list of new words for 2025, and some tradwife creators now have followings in the millions. It's not a fringe lifestyle

Walk in prepared, not panicked. Here's exactly what you need to do before mediation starts. With divorce mediation costing $$$ per hour, preparing before starting the clock matters. You've decided on mediation. Smart move. But here's what most people don't realize: walking in unprepared costs you thousands in billable hours and puts you in a position to make decisions you'll regret. Mediators charge by the hour. Every moment you spend looking for a document, clarifying your f

The decisions you make in the next 90 days will affect everything that comes after. Here's the exact roadmap. Most people file for divorce without doing any of the preparation that would have saved them thousands of dollars and months of unnecessary stress. Not because they didn't have time. Because nobody told them what to do first. The 90 days before you file are the most important window in the entire divorce process. This is work to do before you book attorney consultatio

Compare pricing, features, and which platform actually works for your situation. Online shopping for divorce? Read this first. You can get just about anything online these days: a first date, wedding registry, and a divorce. Is an online divorce service right for you? Yep, you read that right. Getting divorced online is now as common as ordering your morning coffee through an app. But before you start thinking divorce is as simple as adding items to your Amazon cart, let's ta

What happens when you skip the reflection, and how to do it right. Self reflection during and after divorce isn't easy, but is essential to rebuild your best life. We've all seen it: someone gets divorced, and within weeks they're in a new relationship. Sometimes it's genuine connection. Sometimes it's escape. What's the difference between the two? Intention. When you skip the reflection phase of divorce, you're more likely to make choices from a place of loneliness, relief,

When you're catastrophizing or spiraling about divorce, Martin Seligman's framework can help you think clearly instead of panicking. Spiraling is good for stairs, not so much for people. Divorce brings up catastrophic thinking. What if I can't afford to live on my own? What if my kids never forgive me? What if I'm making the biggest mistake of my life? What if I end up alone forever? Therapists call this pattern "catastrophizing," assuming the absolute worst in any situation,

Know these two numbers before you sit down to negotiate and you'll never have to worry you missed something. Understanding your numbers pre and post divorce are critical for being smart during negotiations. When people come to me before divorce negotiations, I ask them one question first: Do you know what your marriage actually costs? Most don’t. And that’s the single most expensive mistake you can make before sitting across from your spouse at a negotiating table. Here’s wha