If you're married to someone in the military and considering divorce, you're navigating a process that's already hard—but with additional layers of complexity that civilian divorces don't have. Federal laws. Deployment schedules. Benefits tied to length of service. Rules that vary depending on whether you're dealing with active duty, reserves, or retirement. And everyone keeps mentioning something called the "20/20/20 rule" but nobody's explaining what it actually means or wh

When you're considering divorce but have zero access to financial information because your spouse manages everything, the whole idea of leaving can feel impossible. How are you supposed to negotiate a settlement when you don't even know what accounts exist? How do you plan for your future when you literally have no idea what you have I hear this exact fear almost every day from people who reach out to me. You're definitely not alone in feeling completely in the dark about you

One of the first questions people ask me when they're thinking about divorce is: "How do I find a good lawyer?" Not just any lawyer. A good one. Someone who's experienced, reasonable, won't drain your bank account unnecessarily, and actually gets what you're going through. It's one of the most important decisions you'll make during this process—and one of the most overwhelming. Because how are you supposed to evaluate something you've never done before? How do you know if som

How One Simple Exercise Helped Me Navigate Divorce — and How It Can Help You Too If you're going through a divorce right now, your to-do list probably looks something like this: find an attorney, gather financial documents, figure out the custody situation, try not to fall apart. Writing a letter to yourself is probably not on that list. It should be. I spend a lot of time talking about spreadsheets, financial disclosures, and getting organized before you ever set foot in an