Should Your Tween or Teen Dictate Your Post-Divorce Parenting Schedule? Insights from Psychologist Dr. Lisa Damour Figuring out custody is one of the most emotionally brutal parts of divorce. I know this from experience. When I was going through my own divorce, we got through the finances, the property, all of it. But when we sat down to talk about the parenting schedule? I had to leave the room because I became emotionally overwhelmed. No one has kids thinking they're going

What's Actually Happening in Your Brain During Divorce—and How to Fix It You're not imagining it. The brain fog, the inability to focus, the way you keep replaying painful conversations on an endless loop—there's actual neuroscience behind what you're experiencing during divorce. I sat down with neuroscientist Dr. Nicole A. Tetreault to understand exactly what's happening in our brains during one of life's most stressful transitions. What she shared wasn't just fascinating—i

If you’re heading into the holiday season while navigating divorce or separation, this time of year can feel anything but merry. That mix of gratitude and complete overwhelm? Totally normal. Dread and anxiety? Yup, normal. The holidays during or after divorce feel different. But here’s what I want you to know: different doesn’t have to mean bad. Subscribe to The Divorce Planner's weekly newsletter and get divorce prep tips and tools delivered right to your inbox! Whether it’s

What the Podcast Didn't Cover: Strategic Financial Preparation for Divorce After 50 Watch Oprah's podcast about gray divorce. Last week, something significant happened in the divorce conversation. Oprah Winfrey released a podcast episode entirely dedicated to gray divorce—the term for divorce after age 50. The episode featured some of the leading voices in this space: Susan Guthrie, host of The Divorce & Beyond Podcast  and a family law attorney with over 30 years of experien

Let's talk about the elephant in the room. What does divorce actually cost? It's the question I get asked more than any other. And honestly, it's the one that makes people the most anxious. So I sat down with family law attorney Dennis Vetrano Jr.—who's been practicing for 25 years and handles 60 to 100 divorce consultations every single month—to get the real answer. And when I say real, I mean it. Dennis doesn't sugarcoat anything. Which is exactly why I love talking to him.

Watch the 25-minute video conversation above. Expert CDFA Advice on QDROs, Tax Strategies, and Protecting Your Financial Future When you're going through a divorce, the last thing you want to deal with is figuring out how to split up retirement accounts, who had what before marriage, what was earned during, and so on. But this is exactly the stuff you need to understand so you don't make expensive mistakes that'll haunt you for decades. I recently sat down with Certified Divo

Protect Your Kids and Your Peace With a Detailed Parenting Plan That Leaves No Loopholes Does your co-parent make every interaction about drama instead of putting your kids first? That's not normal co-parenting—that's toxic behavior, and it requires a completely different approach. When you're dealing with a manipulative co-parent who shows up late on purpose, badmouths you to the kids, and turns every pickup into a power struggle, you need more than a basic parenting plan. Y

From Two Incomes to One (or One to One): Creating a Realistic Financial Plan for Your Next Chapter Let's talk about the elephant in the...

High-Conflict Co-Parenting: How to Protect Your Kids With a Bulletproof Parenting Plan Does your co-parent make every interaction about...

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"Where do I start when preparing for divorce? I feel completely overwhelmed and don't know what to do first." This question lands in my...

"Some days I feel strong. Other days, I don't know who I am anymore." Who you get to be after divorce is up to YOU. This is one of the...

How treating yourself with kindness becomes your most powerful tool for navigating divorce with clarity and strength Treat yourself with...

The strategic framework that turns overwhelming decisions into clear action steps Divorce can feel like a big game of chess. Every move...

You know that feeling when you're lying awake at 2 AM, staring at the ceiling, asking yourself the same question that's been haunting you...

Thinking about your retirement during divorce might sound premature, but your best bet to stay on track to achieve your goals is to...

Why Your Marriage Ending Might Be Your Best Life Beginning Your next chapter gets to be written by YOU. When you're facing divorce after 45, it feels like everything is falling apart. The life you built, the future you planned, the person you thought you were—suddenly none of it makes sense anymore. I hear this from clients all the time: "I should be grateful for what I have, so why do I feel so empty?" Here's what I want you to consider: what if this is your moment to finall

Divorce when you've been in the dark about finances can paralyze you, but you can take control and get the info you need. When you're considering divorce but have zero access to financial information because your spouse manages everything, the whole idea of leaving can feel impossible. How are you supposed to make decisions about your future when you literally don't know what you have? I hear this exact fear almost every day from women who reach out to me. You're definitely n

With some thoughtful planning, you can turn summer during divorce from “yuck”  to “yeah!" Summer is supposed to be the season of freedom...

When you're going through divorce, it's not just your living situation that's changing—your entire relationship with yourself is being...