You've probably seen the article by now. "The Women Quietly Quitting Their Husbands" by Monica Corcoran Harel in The Cut has been shared thousands of times, sparking conversations in group chats, therapy sessions, and late-night scrolls when you can't sleep because something about it hit too close to home. I know Monica and respect her work. And I am thrilled that the term has gone viral because it provides a great springboard to talk about what quiet quitting really means.

Should Your Tween or Teen Dictate Your Post-Divorce Parenting Schedule? Insights from Psychologist Dr. Lisa Damour Figuring out custody is one of the most emotionally brutal parts of divorce. I know this from experience. When I was going through my own divorce, we got through the finances, the property, all of it. But when we sat down to talk about the parenting schedule? I had to leave the room because I became emotionally overwhelmed. No one has kids thinking they're going

What's Actually Happening in Your Brain During Divorce—and How to Fix It You're not imagining it. The brain fog, the inability to focus, the way you keep replaying painful conversations on an endless loop—there's actual neuroscience behind what you're experiencing during divorce. I sat down with neuroscientist Dr. Nicole A. Tetreault to understand exactly what's happening in our brains during one of life's most stressful transitions. What she shared wasn't just fascinating—i

If you’re heading into the holiday season while navigating divorce or separation, this time of year can feel anything but merry. That mix of gratitude and complete overwhelm? Totally normal. Dread and anxiety? Yup, normal. The holidays during or after divorce feel different. But here’s what I want you to know: different doesn’t have to mean bad. Subscribe to The Divorce Planner weekly newsletter and get divorce prep tips and tools delivered right to your inbox! Whether it’s T

What the Podcast Didn't Cover: Strategic Financial Preparation for Divorce After 50 Watch Oprah's podcast about gray divorce. Last week, something significant happened in the divorce conversation. Oprah Winfrey released a podcast episode entirely dedicated to gray divorce—the term for divorce after age 50. The episode featured some of the leading voices in this space: Susan Guthrie, host of The Divorce & Beyond Podcast and a family law attorney with over 30 years of experien

Let's talk about the elephant in the room. What does divorce actually cost? It's the question I get asked more than any other. And honestly, it's the one that makes people the most anxious. So I sat down with family law attorney Dennis Vetrano Jr.—who's been practicing for 25 years and handles 60 to 100 divorce consultations every single month—to get the real answer. And when I say real, I mean it. Dennis doesn't sugarcoat anything. Which is exactly why I love talking to him.

Watch the 25-minute video conversation above. Expert CDFA Advice on QDROs, Tax Strategies, and Protecting Your Financial Future When you're going through a divorce, the last thing you want to deal with is figuring out how to split up retirement accounts, who had what before marriage, what was earned during, and so on. But this is exactly the stuff you need to understand so you don't make expensive mistakes that'll haunt you for decades. I recently sat down with Certified Divo

Save Thousands in Legal Fees by Getting Your Financial Documents Organized Before Your First Attorney Meeting Organizing financial documents yourself saves thousands in divorce attorney fees. Here's something nobody tells you about divorce: the single biggest thing that will save you money is showing up to your attorney or mediator meeting with your financial documents already organized. Why? Because you're not paying someone $300-800 an hour to chase down bank statements and

Protect Your Kids and Your Peace With a Detailed Parenting Plan That Leaves No Loopholes Does your co-parent make every interaction about drama instead of putting your kids first? That's not normal co-parenting—that's toxic behavior, and it requires a completely different approach. When you're dealing with a manipulative co-parent who shows up late on purpose, badmouths you to the kids, and turns every pickup into a power struggle, you need more than a basic parenting plan. Y

From Two Incomes to One (or One to One): Creating a Realistic Financial Plan for Your Next Chapter Let's talk about the elephant in the room... going from a two-income household to a single-income household is financially brutal. Even if you're the primary breadwinner, divorce changes everything about your financial life. And if you've been a stay at home parent, the shift can feel terrifying and make you want to shut down. The bills don't change. Your kids still need the sam

High-Conflict Co-Parenting: How to Protect Your Kids With a Bulletproof Parenting Plan Does your co-parent make every interaction about drama instead of putting your kids first? That's not normal co-parenting—that's toxic behavior, and it requires a completely different approach. I sat down with parenting plan expert Samantha Boss, who specializes in high-conflict co-parenting situations. Samantha knows how to deal with manipulative co-parents who show up late on purpose, bad

One of the biggest decisions you'll make about divorce is what process to go through, but most people have no clue what the real differences are. I brought back family law attorney Renée Turner to break down collaborative divorce versus mediation in practical terms—not just the fancy descriptions you see online. We talked for 25 minutes about what each process actually looks like day-to-day, which one works when you've got complicated finances, and the red flags that mean you

"Where do I start when preparing for divorce? I feel completely overwhelmed and don't know what to do first." This question lands in my inbox almost daily, and honestly? It's completely understandable. Divorce feels like standing at the base of a mountain without a map. You know you need to get to the other side, but the path forward seems impossible to figure out. Here's the good news: you don't have to figure it all out at once. And you definitely don't need to do it alone.

"Some days I feel strong. Other days, I don't know who I am anymore." Who you get to be after divorce is up to YOU. This is one of the most common things I hear from clients—and it takes me right back to my own divorce. The hardest part wasn't just losing the relationship. It was losing me in the version of "we" that I had been living for years: the routines, the role of being a wife, the role of being a mother, being in "just trying to survive" mode, and having no idea who I

How treating yourself with kindness becomes your most powerful tool for navigating divorce with clarity and strength Treat yourself with the same compassion you would give to your best friend. When people talk about protecting your energy during divorce, they often suggest rest, long walks, or bubble baths. And while those things help, they don't go deep enough. Because the biggest energy drain isn't always your ex, your lawyer, or your to-do list -- it's your inner critic. Y

The strategic framework that turns overwhelming decisions into clear action steps Divorce can feel like a big game of chess. Every move you make has consequences—some you see immediately, others that don't reveal themselves until it's too late. Subscribe to The Divorce Planner newsletter and get divorce prep tips and tools delivered right to your inbox! A client of mine came to me insisting that she wanted to keep the family home and most of the retirement accounts. It felt

There's no better feeling that knowing you can trust your gut. When clients first reach out to me, they usually start with some version of this: "I don't know if I should get divorced. How do I figure out if it's the right decision?" But here's what I've learned after coaching hundreds of people through this exact question—deep down, they already know. They're not really asking me to help them decide. They're asking for permission to trust what they already feel. This hit me

You can get just about anything online these days: a first date, wedding registry, and a divorce. Is an online divorce service right for you? Yep, you read that right. Getting divorced online is now as common as ordering your morning coffee through an app. But before you start thinking divorce is as simple as adding items to your Amazon cart, let's pump the brakes and talk about what online divorce services actually are, how they work, and whether they're right for your situa

You know that feeling when you're lying awake at 2 AM, staring at the ceiling, asking yourself the same question that's been haunting you for months—maybe years: "Should I stay or should I go?" It's one of the most isolating places to be. You feel stuck in what feels like relationship purgatory, not fully in your marriage but not ready to leave either. If this sounds familiar, you're definitely not alone. I recently had an incredible conversation with Betsy Pake , midlife cha

Do It Even If You’re Scared: Why Fear Shouldn’t Stop Your Next Chapter Fear is sneaky. It shows up right when you're about to make a decision that could change your life for the better, whispering all the reasons why you should stay exactly where you are. Whether you're considering divorce, thinking about changing careers, or just trying to take any step toward a better life, fear has this incredible ability to make you freeze right at the moment of action. This happens const

Thinking about your retirement during divorce might sound premature, but your best bet to stay on track to achieve your goals is to educate yourself on how your long-term financial plans will be effected by divorce. How to Prepare for Retirement During Divorce: A Financial Survival Guide Divorce when you're staring down the barrel of retirement can feel absolutely terrifying. Maybe you've been married for 20+ years, and suddenly you're facing the reality of splitting everythi

Why Your Marriage Ending Might Be Your Best Life Beginning Your next chapter gets to be written by YOU. When you're facing divorce after 45, it feels like everything is falling apart. The life you built, the future you planned, the person you thought you were—suddenly none of it makes sense anymore. I hear this from clients all the time: "I should be grateful for what I have, so why do I feel so empty?" Here's what I want you to consider: what if this is your moment to finall

Divorce when you've been in the dark about finances can paralyze you, but you can take control and get the info you need. When you're considering divorce but have zero access to financial information because your spouse manages everything, the whole idea of leaving can feel impossible. How are you supposed to make decisions about your future when you literally don't know what you have? I hear this exact fear almost every day from women who reach out to me. You're definitely n

With some thoughtful planning, you can turn summer during divorce from “yuck” to “yeah!" Summer is supposed to be the season of freedom and fun for kids—but if you’re navigating divorce, you know it can bring a whole different set of challenges. I’ve worked with countless families who dread the approach of summer break, worried about custody schedules, vacation conflicts, and how their kids will handle all the changes. Here’s what I want you to know: your kids can absolutely